Thursday, September 19, 2013

STEM + Philanthropy

Oklahoma has many school-based and after-school STEM initiatives.  For example, Cedric Currin-Moore, the STEM Coordinator for the Oklahoma Afterschool Network (OKAN), can design STEM curricula for any age group for after-school programs--for free!  Other resources include math and science teachers, STEM-oriented college students and adults who work in STEM careers.  Philanthropy, which is giving not only money but also knowledge and sweat equity, abounds in all forms and in all levels of society.
 
Why not marry STEM and philanthropy in our own backyards? 
 
The teachers and their students described below developed something sustainable to improve health, the economy and self-reliance.  The teachers received a Fund for Teachers grant to initiate this plan in Africa and then inspired and taught their students to fundraise for, create and build the project.  How inspiring and totally amazing!
 
Without a grant for travel overseas or outside Oklahoma, any small, medium or Oklahoma large community can band together here in Oklahoma to:
  • identify a need (hand up, not hand out)
  • incorporate the research and execution of a project into the school/after-school curriculum
  • involve as much of the community as possible
  • execute the plan



Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Being Different, Miss America Contestants

We know who won the Miss America Pageant last night.  From the pageant come several topics for reflection.

 1) More obvious differences existed among the contestants.  Four accomplished women, who were “different” in various ways made it to the pageant and competed in front of America.  All of the contestants had to have grit, confidence, intelligence, perseverance, talent, and goals set and attained.  See the first article excerpt below.

2) Miss America, Nina Davuluri, is the first winner of Indian descent.  Highly accomplished, she was immediately “bullied” or criticized online because of her ethnicity. 

This is America.  What should or does that mean regarding the future of young or old?  What do we teach all youth about criticizing or bullying others who are "different"?  Is being different a reason to quit? 

Mentors rise far above the differences in youths or their families.  Consistently, they build a relationship, find the mentees’ spark, listen, teach goal-setting and goal-reaching, overcome low self-esteem and provide steady encouragement for mentees to be the best of themselves. 

These two articles relating to the pageant offer discussion topics about being different, overcoming self, bullying, prejudice, confidence, personality, achieving in spite of obstacles...

Tattoos to Tourette's: Four Miss America hopefuls to watch
Danika Fears, Sep. 13, 2013 at 10:41 AM 

Excerpt:  "A med school hopeful who has battled with bulimia.  An Army soldier with tattoos.  A 20-year-old with Tourette syndrome.  A vocalist born without her left forearm."  

http://www.today.com/style/tattoos-tourettes-four-miss-america-hopefuls-watch-8C11138502                 
Reuters:  Miss Kansas, Miss New York, Miss Iowa

Miss America crowns 1st winner of Indian descent
By CNN Staff
11:31 AM EDT, Mon September 16, 2013

http://www.cnn.com/2013/09/16/showbiz/miss-america-racist-reactions/

Monday, September 16, 2013

Being Different, Clumsiness

Childhood can be painful if a youth is not comfortable in his or her own body.  We usually grow out of many things we perceive as different or become comfortable with them.  For example, the Dove commercials and an increasing number of popular plus-sized models (size 12+) are helping women appreciate their own beauty in many shapes and sizes. Comparing ourselves with others is never productive. 

Although practice can "make" perfect, not everyone is wired the same.  Awkwardness or clumsiness may or may not be outgrown.  Do you know someone awkward or clumsy?  Note Savannah Guthrie's discovery. 

Savannah is a not only the co-host of the Today Show, but she is an accomplished journalist and lawyer.  Clumsy or not, she has achieved. 

Are Some People (like Savannah) Naturally Clumsy? 

TODAY   July 25, 2013

Clumsy is not all in your head, science says, and researchers are studying why it happens to certain people. Notoriously accident-prone Savannah Guthrie heads to the University of Delaware to get some answers about whether she was born to be uncoordinated.


http://www.today.com/video/today/52574524#52574524     Ret. 9-12-13

Tuesday, September 10, 2013

School Driven by Phys Ed

This began as an after-school program in 1998 to assist high-risk students.  Physical activity and coaching are key components, but empowering older youths to lead and coach younger ones is a major part of the success.  By the way, the high school graduation rate at the charter school is 98%.  View the video, although the script verbatim is below.

[Oklahoma Homegrown:  In Oklahoma City, the Canaries Running Team, runs at Earlywine Park and enters races.  Team members also have mentors.  The Oklahoma City Wrestling Foundation, filled with more activities than wrestling, features Mentoring Mondays. Run the Streets in Bartlesville has 103 youth participating this season and projects between 75 to 80 youth finishers for the Rt. 66 Half Marathon on November 24th. Mentoring groups and individual mentors can focus upon more physical activity, which all of us, young and older, need.]

A school driven by phys ed
CBS Sunday Morning: A school driven by phys ed - The head of a Brooklyn charter school motivates his students with sports and physical ...     
September 8, 2013 9:49 AM


(CBS News) School is back in session around the country, and starts tomorrow at the Urban Dove Team Charter School here in New York City. It's a school that goes against the grain. Instead of cutting back on phys ed classes, it's actually using sports as a hook to draw in at-risk students. Our Jeff Glor paid a visit to ask its founder just how he does it, and why:


When Jai Nanda first told people he wanted to start a school based around sports and physical activity, the reaction, he says, was, "You're crazy. What are you doing? Why would you do that?"

Starting a school is an extremely difficult proposition -- perhaps even more difficult because Nanda decided to launch his new school last year in the Bedford-Stuyvesant neighborhood of Brooklyn, one of the neediest communities in New York City.

"We see a lot of families living low income," Nanda told Glor. "We see a lot of obesity. We see a lot of high school dropouts. So we've created a school that attacks the education issue, attacks the health issue in a community where both are critical."

The lab for Nanda's experimental school is in two floors of a Pentacostal church, which he's renting until he finds a permanent home.

The kids come here from all over the city.

Ninety-three percent live below the poverty line; many never showed up for class at their old schools.

But Nanda actively recruits kids that other schools have given up on.

Glor asked, "So, when you go to these schools and say, 'Give me your worst students,' their reaction is?"

"'Woohoo! Awesome! Great!' " laughed Nanda. "And not from a 'We don't like them' [attitude], but 'Someone else can educate them, and get them to be successful? Great! We can't do it, You want them, you got them.' It's a win for everybody."

Nanda's daring approach was to flip the whole idea of school on its head. At a time when only six states require phys ed in every grade, and nine states require recess, he decided to make sports the cornerstone of this program.

When students arrive at Urban Dove, they don't sit behind a desk. They spend the first three hours of every day with their team and coaches.

They play basketball, lift weights, jump rope, use punching bags, ride bikes, and do yoga. Students rotate sports depending on the season.

"Physical education, sports, athletics, I think it's being dismissed," Nanda said. "We need to recognize that a full education requires that kids are active."

What is it about sports? "It's fun; kids enjoy doing it," replied Nanda. "I think there's something special about being on a team."

Nanda also said that children look at a coach differently: "They're willing to share. They're willing to listen."

And that may be what's most unique about the program. When kids go to Social Studies, English and Math, their coaches go with them . . . sitting in class, helping with homework, and sorting out problems.

"We see them bright and early in the morning, and then we're the last people to see them at the end of the day," said coach Alana Arthurs.

Arthurs, who sees students in gym, in the classroom, in the hallway, laughed: "I follow them, it's weird!"

Why? "As soon as they walk out that classroom, I'm behind them, trying to find out, 'Why did you walk out? What's wrong?' I feel the need, personally to find out what's going on, how can I help, how can I fix it, and how can I get you back in the classroom so you can continue to learn."

When we visited last spring, two of the school's star students were Miaklya Hall and Chaneil Thomas.

Miakyla said there were many reasons why she rarely showed up at her old school: "You could cut class, leave. Here I don't feel like leaving because, I don't know, it's fun."

Does the three hours of sports in the morning tire Chaneil out? "I'm ready for class after that," she replied. "I have more energy. I'm just sweaty, but I'm not tired."

It was Jai Nanda's experience as a coach that first led him to create an afterschool program for inner city kids in 1998. His idea was to reach at-risk students by challenging them to lead younger children.

"It's all about empowerment," he said. "Giving them the responsibility to deliver the lesson, to be the mentor, to be the role model. And once you've got that as a foundation, then they're willing to transform all kinds of things in their lives."

Over the past 15 years, hundreds of teens have gone through the afterschool program. And Nanda says the results speak for themselves: Over 98 percent graduate from high school, and college attendance rates are at 95 percent.

Based on that success, and a federal grant, Nanda was able to start his charter school. But not everything has been easy.

"You've lost some kids, you've had to kick some kids out," said Glor. "Realistically, how many of these kids can you keep, can you succeed with?"

"We started with about 108 kids; right now we're at about 95," Nanda responded. "So we've lost about 10 percent of our kids over the first year. That's not bad."

One of the true believers is Deron Rippey, head coach and guidance counselor. He is constantly in motion -- herding kids into class, and intervening when there is a problem.

Rippey keeps families on speed-dial and spends a lot of his time disciplining kids, including 15-year-old Gillet Hood, who is battling anger issues. We were there when Gillet returned to school with his grandma after a week's suspension.

She was furious.

"You are not that guy that you are trying to be. You are perpetrating a fraud," she told her grandson.

Rippey told the youth, "You have to make sure you're helping the situation instead of hurting it, correct?"

"Yeah," Hood replied.

"So when you get ready to get angry and stuff like that, I just want you to picture ME in your face, OK?" his grandmother said. "Picture grandma. What I'M gonna give you when you get back home. If you'd had been in another school, the police would have been involved."

"I promise to do better, I guess," he said. "I mean, I know."

Lots of students at Urban Dove are still struggling, like Gillet. But he's grateful to have a second chance, and he is trying to turn things around.

He's also lost 65 pounds since he's been here.

"You feel better about yourself?" Glor asked.

"Of course I do, I feel perfect about myself," he replied.

With so much stacked against these students, small victories are worth celebrating. And they are part of the reason why Nanda is already looking ahead.

"There's too many kids that need something to help them," he told Glor. "And if we figured out a way to help a group of kids do it, then we've got to help more kids do it."

"If we come back in a few years, where will these kids be?" asked Glor.

"On their way to graduating high school, going on to college, with all the skills and all the tools they need, with no obstacles in their mind as to what their future can be," Nanda replied.

Year 2 at Urban Dove starts tomorrow. While Miakyla Hall won't be there -- her family is moving to New Jersey -- most of the students will return, along with 85 new classmates, nearly doubling the school in size.

For more info:   urbandove.org

From urbandove.org:
urban dove charter logo
Urban Dove Team Charter School (UD Team) is a completely unique high school for struggling 9th and 10th graders where every student is part of a team.
Energize. Students participate in a daily sports, health, and fitness program that focuses on developing the critical life-skills needed for success on the field, in the classroom and in life.

Educate. A 3-year high school for overage/under-credited students with a project-based, personalized instructional program gives students a foundation for higher education and the job skills needed to enter the world of work.

Empower. Students become leaders in their community through a comprehensive internship and job training program that gives them the skills, experience and confidence to excel beyond school.
Some of the unique and exciting features of the school include:
  • A comprehensive sports, nutrition, and fitness program
  • A Co-Ed school with single gender classes
  • Small classes of 15 to 18 students
  • Saturday sports program
  • Individualized instruction, mentoring, and tutoring
  • Internships and college & career readiness programs

Thursday, September 5, 2013

Richie Parker: Drive -- SC Featured, ESPN

Being resilient trumps being different every time.

To inspire anyone...


Richie Parker: Drive--SC Featured, ESPN

Published on Jul 22, 2013
Tom Rinaldi reports on the life of Richie Parker, who overcame being born without arms to become a chassis and body component designer for Hendrick Motorsports.
Richie Parker (R), sunjournal.com


Favorite quote:
"There isn't anything I can't do, there are only things I haven't done yet. . ."   Richie Parker


Wednesday, September 4, 2013

L.I.L.I.E.S. and R.E.E.D.S. Society, Oklahoma City

Latasha Howell,
Founder & CEO,
L.I.L.I.E.S. & R.E.E.D.S. Society

Today's goals: 1) to demonstrate fruits of past mentoring and 2) to highlight the mission of a strong, caring young woman who wants to help teen mothers and fathers. 

Circa 1983, Dr. Norma Leslie was working with pregnant students and teen mothers at the then all-female Emerson Alternative School in Oklahoma City.  Latasha Howell was a young at-risk woman, whom Leslie mentored.  In addition to telling a teenager what was happening to themselves and their bodies and later what their babies and they themselves needed, Leslie constantly told the teens to “be something, do something” and reenforced self-esteem, confidence, goal-setting and achievement.  Without the support, instruction, resources and encouragement of Leslie’s program, Howell might have turned out differently according to the statistics for teen moms, of whom most do not graduate and many never lift themselves and their children out of poverty. 

In 2009, Howell decided to give back so she worked at the Putnam City Academy, primarily just talking to young women from her own experience.  Last year after three years at PCA, however, she returned to Emerson, where she worked with twenty-five girls at the school with over 300 at-risk students.  Emerson’s principal Sheryl Kishore requested that boys be included, and L.I.L.I.E.S. and R.E.E.D.S. Society was created.  Now over 150 teen mothers attend Emerson.                            



 
H
ighlights of the L.I.L.I.E.S. and R.E.E.D.S. Society’s mentoring program include:
  • Meetings once a week
  • Participating in activities, e.g., bond-building through the Shiloh ropes course, rock climbing, horseback riding, etc.
  • Volunteering at nonprofits
  • Mentoring to instill that Teen Moms and Dads do have potential to succeed
  • Reflective writing, e.g., journaling, essay contests to participate in field trips, letters to their children, etc.  Sample essay themes:
    • “How are you a leader in your home?”
    • “How has your child improved your life?”
  • Wearing LILIES and REEDS Society T-shirts on all field trips
  • Recognizing the Teen Moms and Dads for their achievements
  • Honoring achievement with certificates
  • Job shadowing


"LILIES and REEDS SOCIETY’s main purpose is to lower teen pregnancy statistics by filling students with wisdom through mentoring, volunteer work, and fun-filled activities that will encourage them to mentor other young students."

"Lilies and Reeds Society Teen Parent Mentoring Program of Oklahoma helps to empower youth in our community to make positive life choices that enable them to maximize their potential.  The mentoring program uses adult volunteers to commit to supporting, guiding and being a friend to a young person for a period of at least one year.  We are a social network of adults and community members who care about the youth and can help them develop and reach positive academic, career, and personal goals."
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“Behind resentment is a request or a desire. Behind anger is fear.” 
from DR. NORMA’S 21 WAYS FOR A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP

Dr. Leslie, who now lives in Tempe, Arizona, is a board member of L.I.L.I.E.S. and R.E.E.D.S. Society.

Tuesday, September 3, 2013

Family Meetings

Mentoring conferences and workshops remind us that we often must work holistically at varying degrees with schools and/or families. 

Two blogs discuss family meetings, and several illustrate how to build and reinforce resilience

'Definitely worth the time to read and reflect!

http://sounddiscipline.wordpress.com/, a blog by Jody McVittie, M.D., Executive Director, Sound Discipline

Jody McVittie, M.D.
Note:
While in Seattle, I listened to a lunch discussion with Jody McVittie, M.D., and then had the fortune to chat with her as she transported me after the mentoring conference to the waterfront.  Subsequently, I reviewed the Sound Discipline website, from which I will blog excerpts in the future. 


Beginning Family Meetings
One of the most treasured books in my library is the collection of notes we took at family meetings. It is an archive of family history. To some it might look like a list of problems: the kids grieving about something that we did as parents, the problem of how chores would get done (over and over again), or one kid complaining his or her sibling. But what I see when I look at the book is handwriting that grows up, art that the scribe put on the page while they were patiently waiting for the meeting to proceed and a story of how our family learned to live together using meetings as a regular routine: a small sanctuary in our life to share genuine appreciations, to celebrate, plan, and solve problems respectfully.IMG_1845
I won’t claim that my kids loved family meetings. As teenagers there were regular protestations over this kind of weird thing our family did. On the other hand, they would come home from visiting friends and say things like, “That family needs family meetings.”
Why have them? Because the regular routine of family meetings creates connection, a sense of family and teaches problem solving, courage, resilience, responsibility, conflict skills. Family meetings give your children a voice and teach everyone accountability.
What does it look like? A family meeting is a regular (once a week) gathering of the family that follows a regular format.:
Compliments- Each person gives everyone including themselves a compliment.
Problem Solving- The family finds solutions to problems listed on the agenda in advance.
Planning- This involves planning some kind of fun family activity and in our family also involved meal planning and reviewing the events of the coming week.
Are you willing to try? The key to getting started is taking one step at a time. When you first start family meetings start them with one purpose: to learn how to have family meetings. If parents try to teach family meetings and try to get problems solved right away, kids will see family meetings as just another way parents have of manipulating them. You’ve waited a long time to solve these problems. You can wait a few more weeks until your family learns how to do family meetings.
Step 1. Compliments. Eventually you will start each family meeting with each person complimenting or expressing an appreciation for each family member. Compliments set a positive tone and help everyone remember the good things about the week. A compliment or an appreciation is a simple statement like: “I would like to compliment Sara for helping me with my homework yesterday.” Or “Thank you for going on a bike ride with me.” The appropriate response to a compliment is, “Thank you.” Giving compliments may not come naturally at first so parents may need to teach and model compliments.
Hints for compliments:
• If someone cannot think of a compliment for another family member encourage him or her to ask the family member what he or she would like to be complimented for.
• If a parent (or other family member) senses that a compliment is a jab disguised as a compliment ask the compliment giver to rephrase the compliment so it is helpful not hurtful.
Practice: Once a week (or more often for practice), at a family meal, have each person compliment every other person in the family and share something about themselves that they would like to acknowledge.

Beginning Family Meetings – Part 2
Contibuted by Jody McVittie, MD
You’ve been courageous to start something new. You’ve done a couple weeks of compliments at the dinner table or another time and now you’ll add some structure.
There are two projects for this week:
1) Have a short family meeting (15 minutes) in which everyone gives compliments and together you plan a short family activity.
2) Do the family activity.

The meeting Set aside a more intentional time (after dinner or after breakfast on a weekend) to gather for your meeting.
Give compliments. Everyone gives everyone at the table a compliment (including themselves.)
Plan a family activity. Ask your family to plan something that you can all do together that lasts somewhere between 10 and 30 minutes.
Ideas might include:
• Family games: board games, card games, charades, hide and seek.
• Family outings: walk around the block, a trip to the park, an outdoor scavenger hunt, going out for ice cream.
• Family activities: movies, cooking together, making dessert together, or attending events.
Hints: 
• Let the kids lead this. Ask them to start with something short (10-20 minutes) in which everyone can participate. As your family gets better at playing or doing things together you can stretch the time frame. It is better to have a short success than a long failure.
• Keep it affordable and something that can be enjoyed by all in the family
Right away you might notice that this is harder. Not everyone wants to do the same thing! You won’t be the first family who has struggled with this. Together you can find a creative solution. Think about what is important from the child’s point of view.
• It has to be fair. (That doesn’t mean equal.)
• It is helpful if it doesn’t seem like the parent has a bias: better to use flipping a coin or drawing straws than have the parent influence the decision.
• Ideas other families have used: taking turns, drawing straws, flipping a coin, making a rainy day and a sunny day list, or rotating who picks the activity.
The activity When the time comes for the family activity aim for connection and fun. It may not go as planned. It may not meet your expectations. We are aiming for small steps.


Sound Discipline works with schools, educator, parents and caregivers.
http://www.sounddiscipline.org/