Do an icebreaker or other getting to know each other activity.
- Play basketball in a gym or outside.
- Walk around the school while talking.
- Dance--teach each other new steps.
- Jump rope.
- Play volleyball [even if only perfecting how to serve].
- Jog (keep an exercise log.
- Play hacky sack.
- Throw a frisbee.
- Throw or catch a football.
- Throw baseballs, bat a ball, or practice catching.
- Practice putting. [Used golf clubs can be found at many thrift stores.]
Write a personal mission statement. Ask your mentee to answer these questions.
- What is exciting and not so exciting about my life right now?
- What would be the ideal day in my life? Who would I be? Where would I be?
- What are two-three talents or abilities I believe I have which others may also think I possess?
- What is one talent or ability that I believe I have or "could have" but others don't seem to see it in me?
- What moment in my life brought me the most personal satisfaction or sense of accomplishment?
- What is my life about? What are my values? What am I working toward to accomplish in my life?
- Be realistic.
- Be challenging.
- Have a deadline.
- Be specific.
- Be attainable.
Discuss cars. [Research online if needed.]
- Paying for the car
- First step in getting a driver's license.
- Practice questions for the written exam
- Kinds of car insurance and how to pay for it
- normal repairs and maintenance
- Kind of car mentee would like
- Pros and cons of a new car versus a used car
- Other responsibilities in owning a car
- Distracted or impaired driving
- Visiting several car lots and discussing sales pitches
Discuss education and training for future lifestyles.
- Explore online what different occupations require in education and earn.
- Discuss steps to get training or education.
- Remember life now is a journey. Education and training never end.
- Community service and school involvement
- Sports, band, vocal music, theater, or school organizations
Write a little story about the cultural heritage of the mentor and mentee after sharing.
- Identify the problem.
- Identify the feelings surrounding the conflict.
- Brainstorm solutions.
- Choose one idea to try.
- Evaluate the success of the plan.
- If the solution is ineffective, choose another idea and proceed.
Communicate with your mentee.
- I care - Let your mentee know that he or she is important to you.
- I see - Focus on observable behavior.
- I feel - Give your mentee the benefit of knowing how you feel about the behavior.
- Pause - Be prepared for silence, anger, a sad story or an emotional outpouring.
- I want - Once you have heard your mentee's perspective, let him or her know what you would like to have happen.
- I will - Let your mentee know what you will do to support him or her. Leave the door open.
Demonstrate etiquette and good social skills.
- Use "please" and "thank you."
- Never wear your hat or cap indoors.
- Practice shaking hands.
- Practice dining out, e.g., place napkin in lap first, identify correct use and placement of utensils, know the bread plate is on your left, etc.
- Research online or in books together and then practice.
Demonstrate and discuss cell phone etiquette.
Investigate a post-secondary training and education.
- Visit a local college or career tech [perhaps with other mentors and mentees as a special event or take along his or her parents].
- Arrange a guided tour prior to your visit.
- Research admissions and costs.
- Practice completing a college application.
- Investigate how to pay for further education or training.
- Review all costs.
Help your mentee begin a resume and then make a professional draft.
- Jobs - babysitting, yard work, custodial work, life guard, and other paid positions
- School activities
- Out-of-school activities
- Personal interests or hobbies
- Entire educational experience
- Awards or honors
- Special skills and talents
Design and make a business card. Consider including a personal logo.
- Fax if applicable
- Website or social media
More to come...