Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Sample Three-Year Goals & Evaluator

Goal setting is a learned skill. 

Winning Futures' Five Steps to Success 

  • Vision A form of daydreaming: your own mental picture of how you see yourself or what you want...

  • Goal Something specific to strive toward. List the benefits...and sacrifices of the goal.

  • Plan A detailed list of the action steps you must take to achieve your goal. List the obstacles...

  • Commitment Helps you stick to your goals...

  • Success Each person individually defines his or her own success...
Sample Three -Year Goals
  • Attend local community college to earn an associate's degree in law enforcement.

  • Transfer from local community college to Walsh College to earn a bachelor's degree in finance.

  • Get accepted in to engineering school at U or M.

  • Graduate from Bella's Beauty School with a certificate in nails.

  • Earn A+ Certification at New Horizons, along with Microsoft Certified Professional to work as a help-desk worker in the computer industry.

  • After becoming certified in high school, work full-time at Hamilton Chevrolet as an auto mechanic.

  • Get my real estate and appraisal license by attending Real Estate One Academy.

  • Graduate from Baker College with an associate of applied science degree to be a medical assistant.

  • Get my heating/cooling certifications at Northwestern Tech.

Your three-year goal is a stepping-stone used to reach your five-year goal. When setting your three-year goal, think about where you are today, and where you want to be in five years with your career. Remember, schooling, training, and experience will help you get the job you want. Consider your need to work part-time or full-time, along with how you will fit your training/schooling into your schedule.
Example Three-Year Goal Evaluator

1. My educational VISION is be the first person in my family to earn a bachelor's degree and have  a secure job in finance.

2. My specific educational GOAL is transfer from Macomb Community College (MCC) to Walsh College and earn a bachelor's degree in finance.

Benefits - secure future, more money with degree, will benefit my resume
Sacrifices - financial drain, time from work, cut into social time

3. The obstacles I may come across are no financial support, work conflicts with classes, getting credits to transfer.

The specific PLAN I will take

  • Step One Reasearch funding sources for shcool (scholarships, grants, loans, etc.) Apply by each deadline. Complete by September 1st next year.

  • Step Two When enrolling at MCC, work with a counselor to schedule all of my classes to transfer to Walsh. Schedule my classes earlier to coordinate it with my work schedule. Complete by July 1st of next year.

  • Step Three Check to see what the minimum GPA requirements are at Walsh and maintain that GPA by attending classes, doing required work, and studying in advance for tests. Complete by December 21st next year.

  • Step Four Apply to Walsh, take required entrance exam, and complete financial aid form for Walsh. Complete by December 1st in two years.

4. I make a personal COMMITMENT to achieve each step so that I can accomplish my goal!

5. I will reach my SUCCESS by three years from today.  

Excerpts from a workbook for sale

Achieving Success Workbook

A Guide to Designing Your Future
Planning for the Future

High School and Young Adult Student Workbook
Ret. 4-28-14

Winning Futures presented at the National Mentoring Summit 2013

Tuesday, April 29, 2014

Mentoring Activities, Middle School - High School

Excerpts from A Year’s Worth of Mentoring

We have adapted a few and omitted those that cannot be done at school.

Remember that mentoring is done with your mentee, not to your mentee. Let him or her participate and have input. 'Reciprocity!

      1.    Set your mentoring goals together    
      2.    Tackle some homework             
      8.    Shoot some hoops

      9.    Go to the library together

    10.    Just hang out

    11.    Figure out how to program [something]

    12.    Learn about [each other's favorite] music

    13.    Talk about life

    15.    Talk about your first job

    16.    Talk about planning a career

    17.    Plan a career

    22.    Talk about college [or postsecondary options]

    24.    Sit in on some [free online classes]

    25.    Work on applications together

    26.    Explore financial aid options

     27.    Work on a resume

    28.    Talk about dressing for success

    29.    Do a pretend job interview

    30.    Talk about how to look for a job

    31.    Talk about how to find a job

    32.    Find a summer job

    33.    Set up a work internship

    34.    Talk about networking

    35.    Talk about what it takes to get ahead

    36.    Talk about health insurance

    37.    Talk about taxes

    38.    Talk about balancing work and life

    39.    Talk about balancing a checkbook

    40.    Talk about balancing a budget

    41.    Talk about living within one’s means

    42.    Talk about credit cards

    44.    Plan a week’s [or month's] worth of [expenses on a budget]

    47.    Write “thank you” notes

    49.    [Research] a friend’s religious holiday [not the mentee's own]

    50.    Talk about relationships

    51.    Talk about personal values

    52.    Talk about the future

Baylor University's Community Mentoring for Adolescent Development Trainer's Manual, 1998. Revised, MENTOR, 2004.

Monday, April 28, 2014

Middle School Mentor-Mentee Activities

Our office copy of the booklet
Excerpts from and generous adaptations with blogger's commentary from 

My Mentor & Me, The Middle School Years

Dr. Susan G. Weinberger
The Governor's Prevention Partnership, 2003

1. Take photos and discuss how to take better ones. Build a portfolio.

2. Play games, e.g., hangman, jacks, tick-tack-toe, chess, checkers, Monopoly, Battleship, Life, Risk, Dic-tion-ary, Scrabble, Cranium, Cadoo, Legos...

3. Build models, e.g., rockets, kites, cars, motorcycles, planes, etc.

4. Plan a community service project  focused upon senior citizens. Rally the school to participate in the execution of it if possible.

5. Talk about your and your mentee's middle school years

6.  Sports, e.g., hit golf balls, shoot hoops, play soccer or hacky sack, or other. Research a sports figure.

7. Time management  How do you spend an average day? How long do you spend on each activity? Compile a list, and then discuss if you need to rearrange your schedule.

8. Join a club or activity.

  • Research what clubs are offered at [your] mentee's school.
  • Write down each club, its purpose and interview the leader to find out how to join and whether it is one that appeals to your mentee. [You might encourage your mentee to attend a meeting or two to evaluate.]
  • Set a goal to join one or two clubs.
  • Examples Dr. Weinberger cited are intermural sports, multicultural clubs, newspaper, chorus, band, orchestra, and foreign language.
  • Check with your mentee weekly to find out how they are doing with their clubs and activities.
  • Attend an event to support your mentee whenever appropriate.

7. Family tree Research the family name and origin. Ask how your mentee received his or her name. Help your mentee draw and put together a family tree. He or she may need interviews from family members. Design a family crest if one does not exist.

8. Calendar and schedule On a calendar write holidays, important activity days, special events, and birthdays. Discuss the punctuality, the importance of remembering birthdays, and planning ahead.

9. Bullying Even within this blog are anti-bullying ideas, but online are so many more resources. Ask your mentee what bullying is, if anyone at his or her school has been bullied, how did witnessing bullying or being bullied hurt, how should one react, and so on. Is your mentee a bully? If so, why?

10. Anger  Discuss anger both your own and your mentee's. When do you become angry? What were you like at his or her age? How do you handle anger? Offer your mentee some ways to cope. Ask what your mentee would recommend for you to do to diffuse anger.

11. Learn another language. Although rudimentary, learning simple phrases in Spanish or another language is positive. Your mentee may be able to teach you!

12. "Manners for Minors" as Dr. Weinberger entitles this topic--Discuss the meaning of the word etiquette, why etiquette is important, learn some basic skills, and practice. Eye contact, proper handshaking, straight posture, table settings, introductions, greetings, appearance, and other examples will be helpful. 

13. Arts and crafts encompass much. Perform a physical activity that requires reading instructions or following steps, e.g., origami, paper or balsa wood airplanes, polymer clay figures, bead jewelry, rubber stamps, making a gift or card, etc. 

14. Preparing for the transition to high school is critical. Share your own experiences, research, talk to a counselor, take photos of the high school, discuss the changes that will occur, e.g., in scheduling, peer group, schedule, etc. 

Dr. Mentor, aka Susan Weinberger, had other topics along with more discussion in her booklet.

Adapted 4-22-14

Sunday, April 27, 2014

Chocolate Lovers' Fundraiser II

This chocolate extravaganza began at Norman's Firehouse Art Center but has expanded to a larger location. Some of the chefs and chocolatiers have learned that their public likes a particular item so a few make only that "signature" confection. In your community, you could feature another flavor or even versions of some agricultural product important to your area.

The Chocolate Festival is the Firehouse Art Center's only annual fundraiser and membership drive. All proceeds from the annual Chocolate Festival help support children's arts education, exhibits, and programs, such as Art Education in Schools, offered to the community by the Firehouse Art Center.   (vimeo video promo below)
  • Benefits the Norman Firehouse Art Center
  • FAC's only fundraiser
  • $25-35 tickets (member, non-member pricing)
  • About 40 "juried" vendors participate
  • A premier, one-hour tasting session in 2010 included 15 chocolate samples, a container to take home leftovers and a complimentary drink
  • Kid-friendly art activities
  • Attendance around 3,000

More about 2014's event
Feast on favorites such as chocolate amaretto cream cake, Godiva chocolates and chocolate fondue. Don't miss Kendall's Restaurant's fantastic chocolate cinnamon rolls, which are only available at the Chocolate Festival each year. Also, for something a bit out of the ordinary, try samples of chocolate chili and let your chocolate cravings run wild... ['Makes your mouth water, doesn't it?]

Chocolate Festival 2014  (32nd festival)
February 1, 2014 | 10:30 AM - 2:00 PM
at the NCED Conference Center and Hotel                                                               2801 State Highway 9, East, Norman, Oklahoma 73071

31st Annual Firehouse Art Center’s Chocolate Festival

Date:  Sat, 02/02/2013 (All day)
October 29, 2012
NORMAN, OK – The Norman Firehouse
Art Center’s 31st annual fundraiser, “The Chocolate Festival,” will take place February 2, 2013. We are inviting all local chefs, restaurateurs and chocolate artists to join us to celebrate the tradition of enjoying decadent chocolate samples in honor of supporting arts education for the children of Norman. Participants will support the Firehouse art programs while marketing their business to a large and appreciative crowd from the community. Vendor applications (available on the Firehouse website,,
will be accepted for this premier event until November 30, 2012... 

Chocolate Festival 2012 videos

Saturday, April 26, 2014

Activities at the Oklahoma City Zoo

Always check websites for current information on admission, discounts, free days, new attractions, and so on. Zoos and other activities in or near your town may have similar opportunities.

To apply for a grant, which may include partial bus funding within a 25-mile radius. See eligibility at the link below.

Free days and additional discounts  

You can share this news with others. Also, check the zoo website each year for new calendars and opportunities.

Note the programs and resources available.

This also has a section on job shadowing, internship, etc., in the lower right corner.  Go to the link above for more information.

Friday, April 25, 2014

Five Ways to Ensure Mentoring Quality

from the 2014 National Mentoring Month Campaign sponsored by

MENTOR National Mentoring Partnership
Corporation for National and Community Service
Harvard School of Public Health
Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention (OJJDP)
United Way

Thursday, April 24, 2014

Chocolate Lovers' Fundraiser I

'A successful, adaptable fundraiser from Pennsylvania...

Lititz Chocolate Walk Highlights
  • $25 to participate
  • Receive button, punch card & map
  • Downtown
  • Walk from store to store
  • Ticket sales now capped at 2,000 to shorten lines
  • "Chocolate Stroll," a smaller version
Event sponsored by the Kiwanis Club of Lititz Area, Pennsylvania

Kiwanis Magazine, December 2013, 36-39

Kiwanis Magazine, December 2013


If you want to attract patrons to a fundraiser, chocolate is a strong draw. Apologies to other Kiwanis clubs, but chocolate might just trump pancakes. 

That's perhaps why the Kiwanis Club of Lititz Area, Pennsylvania, has run its Lititz Chocolate Walk every October for 12 years now. Dubbed the "Chocolate for Charity" event, the Lititz Chocolate Walk showcases some of the regions's most talented chefs, chocolatiers and candymakers, who whip up cocoa confections to raise money for kids' needs.

Walkers pay US$25, don an official Chocolate Walk button and carry a punch card. They follow maps through historic downtown Lititz, scoring chocolate treats at each of about 30 retail locations. Since 2001, the event has attracted more than 15,000 stalwart champions for chocolate and raised about US$350,000. The event is so popular now (drawing visitors from as far away as Minnesota, California and even Alaska), the club caps ticket sales at 2,000 to keep the lines short.

"We will distribute more than US$50,000 from the 2013 walk," says Lititz Area Kiwanian and Chocolate Walk Chairman Mark Freeman. "We hold a special evening every year where we invite our chocolate vendors to come and see what their efforts benefit."

Some patrons "call it trick or treat for grown-ups." Others just enjoy the chance to sample chocolate goodies and enjoy the ambiance of Lititz, a 257-year-old town that's packed with heritage--and apparently chocolate.

"It's a community event that brings people to town and gets them into our many eclectic shops," Freeman says. "Our host retailers benefit tremendously. Many tell us they have one of their best days of the year on Chocolate Walk day. Some say it's the unofficial kickoff for the holiday season in Lititz.     

The club shares its success, helping other communities organize similar events. A nearby retirement center now runs a "chocolate stroll" each winter, but the club's event reigns supreme in the region.                          

During our third walk in 2014, we had a torrential downpour, and it did not slow things down," Freeman says."No one complained. They were all focused on the chocolate. That was the year we knew we had something special.

During our third walk in 2014, we had a torrential downpour, and it did not slow things down," Freeman says."No one complained. They were all focused on the chocolate. That was the year we knew we had something special.

The Kiwanis family can be found everywhere along Chocolate Walk, including chocolate craftsmen (right) and checking tickets (top right). The most important job--tasting samples--is managed by the 2,000 chocolate-stalking patrons...

Next post - Norman Firehouse's Chocolate Festival!

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Paul Stanley, KISS, on his Painful Secrets as a Kid

All of us who have worked closely with youths, especially teachers and coaches, have learned about students' secrets, e.g., abusive and/or alcoholic parents, children sleeping on the floor, a single parent working several jobs to survive, the abrupt descent from upper or middle class due to divorce or job loss, and so on. Young people can overcome or succumb. Mentors help them move forward positively.

For mentor-mentee conversations, see emphasized sections.

Paul Stanley and Anthony Mason

Paul Stanley and the heavy metal band KISS made it big more than four decades ago and he just put out a memoir called "Face the Music: A Life Exposed."

Stanley recently sat down with CBS News' Anthony Mason. They talked about his ongoing feuds, and finally getting into the Rock 'N Roll Hall of Fame.

He told Mason that after 15 years of eligibility, the invitation still feels like a slap in the face.

The original KISS
Mason: You're being inducted into the Rock n' Roll Hall of Fame.

Stanley: Or indicted.

Mason: Indicted?

Stanley: The Rock N' Roll Hall of Fame is fluff. It's a farce. It's like an Addams Family bar mitzvah. I'm gonna go, but let's not kid ourselves, you know. That's not the Rock n' Roll Hall of Fame. The Rock n' Roll Hall of Fame is walking the streets.

Mason: You don't see it as an honor?

Stanley: I see it as dubious. We are the bitter pill that they ultimately had to swallow. Because they don't like us. And the only reason they're inducting us is because they begin to look foolish at some point for not having us in.
Despite six platinum albums in the 70's and 100 million records sold, KISS has often been dismissed by critics who couldn't get past the band's cartoonish makeup and theatrical pyrotechnics.

Stanley: And if it's bad reviews got me here, you're in the house that bad reviews built.

[Past Poverty]
That house, a Beverly Hills mansion, sits in the hills above Los Angeles.

Stanley: It's certainly not the environment I grew up in. I was in the family room one day with my youngest and I said, "I grew up in an apartment this size." And he goes, "Why?"

The son of Jewish emigrees, he was born Stanley Eisen in New York City with a deformed ear that made him deaf on the right side.

Mason: What was it like living with that?

Stanley: Living with secrets, personal secrets is incredibly painful.

For most of his life, he hid the deformity under his long hair and his insecurities under the "Starchild" makeup he wore for KISS.

Stanley: This lonely little kid who couldn't get a date, didn't know how to interact with people, couldn't hear, had learning issues in school suddenly became, you know, sought after by women, envied by guys, sold millions of albums.

Mason: You were very driven from the beginning to succeed in this band.

Stanley: I think I was very driven period. It was to compensate to make myself feel more worthy by achieving things. My achievements now are my children, my wife. But it was a long road to get there.

One of his oldest friends is band mate Gene Simmons with whom he founded KISS more than 40 years ago.

Mason: Did you like him when you first met?

Stanley: No, I didn't like him at all. There's days he annoys me now. You know the squeaky wheel gets the oil. So he's the guy who everybody sees as like the brains behind KISS, which is really he is the mouth behind KISS. I always tell people he lives two minutes away and I can see his ego from here.

But Stanley told Mason they're now closer than ever. Stanley, however, rarely speaks with the band's other two original members, guitarist Ace Frehley and drummer Peter Criss who left in the 80s.

Mason: Gene Simmons says they're not fit to wear the makeup anymore.

Stanley: It's a great soundbite.

Mason: Do you agree with it?

Stanley: I agree that they don't belong in the band. And they don't belong in a position to represent the band.

And when the Rock N' Roll Hall of Fame asked the original members to perform together again, Stanley resisted.

Mason: For old time's sake, one more time, you wouldn't want to do that?

Stanley: How many times have you been married?

Mason: Twice

Stanley: How about for old times sake you go back and spend the night with your ex-wife?

Mason: That's the way you look at it?

Stanley: That's the way you'd look at it. You wouldn't make good music.

To see Paul Stanley's full interview, watch the video in the player above
© 2014 CBS Interactive Inc. All Rights Reserved. 

Ret. 4-14-14

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

Online Mentoring for STEM Majors and Working STEM Graduates

Click the video on the MentorNet site.

This nonprofit aims to increase the number of STEM graduates and also STEM workers' skills by providing online STEM mentoring. 

Watch the video on the home page.


Website shared by OFE's Brenda Wheelock
Ret. 4-18-14

Monday, April 21, 2014

Music Autobiography

Cindy Scarberry
Mentors adapt and borrow constantly! 

We appreciate Cindy Scarberry's sharing her clever activity with mentors. She uses these slides to help students think about what song they choose to share and why. 

The last slide, entitled "Music Autobiography Criteria" is the first one for Scarberry's assignment. Mentors may refer to it as needed, and teachers will appreciate its inclusion.

The fill-in-the-blank slide is a journal entry she uses to help students think about what they might say during their explanation. Using her format for sharing was not required, but it gave them somewhere to start if they were stumped. 



Suggested Rubric for Sharing

Scarberry's First (or Assignment) Slide

Contributed by Cindy Scarberry
World Music Teacher at Norman High School
Executive Director of the Oklahoma Rodeo Opry
2014 Oklahoma Foundation for Excellence Circle of Excellence Recipient

Idea suggested by OFE's Brenda Wheelock

Received 4-12-14

Thursday, April 17, 2014

Why Mentoring Works

from the 2014 National Mentoring Month Campaign sponsored by

MENTOR National Mentoring Partnership
Corporation for National and Community Service
Harvard School of Public Health
Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention (OJJDP)
United Way

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

SkillsUSA Forensics and Security Chapter, Mentoring et al.

Why Tulsa Tech-Peoria's Skills USA?

At the Mayor’s Mentoring Breakfast at the end of February, Richard Stewart, an instructor in criminal justice as well as a SkillsUSA advisor at Tulsa Tech, talked about his students’ community service and mentorship. Excitement prompted a visit a week later. Stewart’s students exhibited poise, confidence and pleasance. Called upon randomly, they spoke articulately and passionately. What they are learning and doing inspires.

Hands-On Approach
This peer and group mentoring model works effectively through research and hands-on activities to prepare criminal justice students for the workplace and citizenship. By building relationships, the Career Tech students show how to break crime in northeast Tulsa. They are mentors but also mentees.

Mentoring Background
For three years through Tulsa Regional Chamber’s Partners in Education program, members of Stewart’s Skills USA Forensics and Security Chapter have partnered with Tulsa’s Hawthorne Elementary School. In March 2014, his group adopted McClain Eighth Grade Center.

Community Service Wish
According to Stewart, the Tulsa Chief of Police, Chuck Jordan, said that the academy would teach recruits how to handcuff, process a crime scene, and such, but he “would like to see young people come out with a heart to serve and some integrity.” Stewart has incorporated Jordan’s wish as curriculum.

Richard Stewart & the "SkillsUSA Awards Wall"
Community Service Action

The chapter delivers community service in a number of ways. For instance, box top collecting, developing an Angel Tree event, and creating an Easter egg hunt directly benefit Hawthorne. The chapter collected 350 pounds of nonperishable food for Tulsa's John 3:16 Mission last year. For Tulsa’s 2013 BOOHAHA Parade, the criminal justice team built a float, from which members threw 400 pounds of candy they provided. Another service component is education.

Learn First, Teach Others                                        
Students demonstrate to their mentees and others handcuffing, finger printing, lifting latent fingerprints, writing a report, collecting evidence, and photographing and sketching a crime scene.  To promote Drug Awareness Month, chapter members learn PowerPoint to create their own Drug Abuse Resistance Education (D.A.R.E.) presentations.  A Prezi, a cloud-based presentation, illustrates for older students the dangers of methamphetamine. 
Sticker created for D.A.R.E. 

Health fairs and demonstrations can also involve cardiopulmonary resuscitation (CPR) and first aid. Monkey brains add realism and drama. Chapter members have even researched and taught diversity to dispatchers. Opportunities to learn and teach are endless and imaginative.

Encouraging Future Careers
For northeast Tulsa, this SkillsUSA unit hosts a Career Tech fair. This event showcases different careers available in area tech centers during high school and after graduation.

Twelve-Month Calendar
Since the beginning, the criminal justice group has a twelve-month calendar. After formation, for example, the students began feeding the homeless in July.

Networking with Professionals
Creative hands-on learning and benefiting the public often allow students to “hang out” with or assist active personnel from law enforcement, emergency Medical Services Authority (EMSA), fire, and other civil agencies. These professionals also mentor the Career Tech mentors. The Tulsa County Sheriff’s Office and the Bixby Police Department are principal partners.

"Real" Projects
Detailed research and often certification precede some projects such as vehicle inspections, occupational health and safety inspections, presentations about alcohol compliance, and providing event security.  Workplace inspections include a local salon, the Tulsa County Courthouse, and the Dick Conner Correctional Center in Hominy.

A Shop with a Cop partner, the Forensics and Security Chapter members meet the officers and wrap the packages behind the scenes. Working with the Alcoholic Beverage Laws Enforcement (ABEL) officers, these students have been the sting actors. Chapter members hosted the Bixby Citizens Police Academy at Tulsa Tech-Peoria. The experience of the chapter’s spending time with law enforcement and then bonding in the Polar Plunge for Special Olympics can simply not be measured.

These highly motivated and overachieving ambassadors of excellence represent Tulsa, Career Tech, and their instructor admirably. With intention, Richard Stewart uses his knowledge, heart, imagination and network to shape the community beyond his class and chapter. SkillsUSA Forensics and Security Chapter, Tulsa Tech-Peoria, is a model of dual mentoring, community service, and education.

On April 13, 2014, Richard Stewart resigned his commission as a Bixby Police Officer because he won election for the Bixby City Council position. He has applied to the Tulsa County Sheriff’s Office, for which he has worked previously.  

Photo credit from the, South County Leader

Ret. 2-28-14